Loss Isn’t Just Grief—It’s Also Space for Change

Loss is often talked about in terms of what’s no longer there—what’s been taken, what’s ended, what’s gone quiet. That’s real.

And while this isn’t about the kind of loss that comes with death, it’s about the quieter, often more complicated endings—the ones that might not get rituals or closure, but still change you.

This kind of loss doesn’t only leave absence. Sometimes, it leaves space.
It’s not always space we asked for. It might be unwelcome, confusing, or filled with a kind of silence that feels heavy.

But still—there is space. And sometimes that space can hold possibility.

That doesn’t mean what you lost didn’t matter. Or that the grief is any less real.
But sometimes, what’s gone leaves behind more than just absence. It can leave clarity, complexity, or something unnamed that’s just starting to surface.

What Loss Can Look Like

• Being laid off from an unfulfilling job

• The end of an emotionally abusive or unhealthy relationship

• Losing faith in a system or structure you once believed in

• Letting go of ambitions that were never in alignment with your actual values

• Shedding a version of yourself that helped you survive—but no longer helps you feel whole

Grief and Relief Can Coexist

It’s possible to feel both grief and relief.
It’s possible to feel free and still miss the thing that hurt you.
It’s possible to feel like you made the right decision—and still wonder if it would have been easier to stay.

And it’s also okay if you don’t feel both.
Or if one is louder than the other.
Or if the relief doesn’t feel anywhere in sight.

Even if it feels too impossible, that doesn’t mean it always will.

Some days will feel heavier than others. Some days the not-knowing will press down harder. But that doesn't mean you're doing it wrong. You're just living through it.

Loss is complicated. It asks a lot of us. But it can also loosen something.
It can shift things. It can reveal truths we hadn’t yet named— especially when you’ve been carrying more than one story of who you’re supposed to be.

If you’re looking for support in this season, I work with clients throughout Texas and California, including Houston and the Bay Area. My practice centers relationships, identity, and transition—especially for first- and second-generation immigrants and expats. You can reach out if it feels like it might help to have someone alongside you.